Posts tagged realistic resolutions
Posts tagged realistic resolutions
I mentioned, a few weeks ago, that my mom recently suggested I stop flailing around in my life, calm down and just be where I am. She was totally teasing me at the time but it’s completely stuck with me. It led to my only really strong resolution for 2012- enjoy this year. Enjoy my friends. Enjoy my family. Enjoy my job and my silly little dog.
In the last two weeks I have realized a few things that I think are significant:
1. I let myself get really stressed out by things that aren’t that big of a deal. I worry about future possibilities and the plans I’m making around those possibilities and I don’t always need to. If I just relax and enjoy where I’m at, the other stuff will sort itself out as it comes. (In general. I’m not saying no planning at all, just less freaking out for no reason.)
2. This last year taught me so much about kindness. I don’t think I’m naturally the kindest person- I tend to be so black and white and vocal about it than I can alienate the people around me. But when I was busy flailing around like a crazy person, the friends who had some of the greatest impact on me were the ones who were kind and patient and let me be a disaster. I’m working really hard to be like that. I’ve been saying for a few months now that ‘being kind is never a wrong response.’ And I’m realizing that this thought has become deep to my core because so many people were and are kind to me when I don’t deserve it.
This feeling reminds me of this verse from the Mumford and Sons song Roll Away Your Stone:
It seems that all my bridges have been burned,
But, you say that’s exactly how this grace thing works
It’s not the long walk home
that will change this heart,
But the welcome I receive with the restart
I’ve learned so much about grace and kindness in my season of flailing and now calming down. It’s radically informed my faith and heart and the way I try to approach my relationships- in a really great way.
I’m really excited about this year. I’m thrilled to not be flailing. I’m excited to be with friends and family and full of love. I’m excited to relax and do things I enjoy and am passionate about. I’m excited to do my best to love the people around me in a new way. I’m excited to see how the things I’ve learned in the last year translate into how I love and live and treat the world around me.
And so, I’ll be found
with my stake stuck in this ground
Marking its territory of this newly impassioned soul
One more goal for 2012- find and share more music. I’m sort of the worst at finding new bands but always get so excited when I stumble across something that really moves me. So this year, I want to make more of an effort to check out those bands my friends recommend and share the things that are inspiring me.
Currently, I’m loving Gungor. I heard an interview with them on one of my favorite podcasts and it was so interesting- their music is gorgeous and moving, their story is beautiful and the way they approach music is so so interesting. This interview with them is really great.
One of my favorite quotes from it, about sharing all of the pieces of our personal stories: “Even if it’s not the best story, sharing your story helps.I hope people can hear [that] through this album. My hope is that it brings them hope. There’s so many more people who struggle than we know, and it’s OK to have questions, it’s OK to struggle. My hope is they can relate, they can relate to the stories we’re thinking about”
I loved setting more realistic resolutions for 2011. I didn’t read 100 books but I did read around 50.
I didn’t send a ton of cards but I did sent more notes to friends than I have ever before.
Looking to 2012, my goals are really simple:
Cheers. To a new year. To good friends. To love and happiness and all of the things that bring us joy.
Write more cards to people I love. = Learn how to write cards that don’t read like they were written by a 4th-grader. “Hey dude, how r u? I’m great! Miss you! Stay cool!”
Eat healthier.= Eat less than 6 cookies tomorrow. That will be a step in the right direction. (What am I doing to myself with 6 cookies in one day?!)
I’m thinking about New Year’s Resolutions and maybe pairing them down a bit.
-Read 100 books this year. = Read 100 pages of a book this year.
-Fall less often at the gym. = Get up more quickly when I do fall so less people notice.
-Spend less time watching crappy t.v. and more time being productive. = Watch crappy t.v. while at the gym. (I love this one b/c it’s productive AND I get my crappy t.v.!)